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As a kid, when it was raining while the sun was shining, my dad used to say: “Well, the devil’s whipping his wife.”

I used to consider it and think “how odd–why would the whole world be able to see that.”

That adage left me thinking that the “devil” was a mean old coot. After all, what man would whip his wife? No one could be that evil, except the bad boy himself.

I admit that I think the devil is evil and a mean old coot. But the whole rainy day and sunshine thing…well, that was just one of my dear ole’ dad’s tales. Nonetheless, it did not take long for me to realize that many, many men whip their wives, and vice-versa.

The innocence of childhood fantasy and ways of thinking, grew into the cruel images implanted in my mind, from watching the aftereffects of spousal abuse first hand.

Not so long ago, it was a hush hush kind of deal when abuse went on in a family. You did not speak of it; you quietly watched, bore and processed it any way you could. You feared, cried and felt ashamed–of what–was never really clear.

Today, things have changed. There are ways to report abuse safely where you can receive counsel and help. It is not something you have to live with, hide or harbor feeling of shame.

If you find yourself in a situation, or know someone who is you can call: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline site. The service is available 24/7.


  • Shameful or degrading put down’s
  • Actions or looks that are intimidating or cause fear
  • Control over who you see, talk to or visit
  • Keeps your money or allows you not to have money
  • Not allowing independent thinking, or input in decisions regarding your life’s situation
  • Threatening to hurt you or your children
  • Not acknowledging abuse exist or minimizing it
  • Trashing your things
  • Shoving, slapping, choking or hitting you
  • Threatening to commit suicide if you leave or file charges
  • Threatening to kill you

Looking out the window the other day, the sun was shining and it began to rain. A time in history flashed before me and I whispered to myself: “somewhere, a devil is whipping his wife.” Don’t let it be you–call today!


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In Tina Turner’s song ‘What’s Love Got To Do With It,’  the following lyrics could lead one to believe love is hopeless and not something that can be achieved; not only truly, but unconditionally.

“What’s love got to do, got to do with it, what’s love but a second hand emotion, what’s love got to do, got to do with it, who needs a heart when a heart can be broken.”

Further, in another verse , the line “what’s love but a sweet old fashion notion” might leave us with visions of sugar plums dancing in our heads; dreaming of a perfect world where mom’s and dad’s love one another, a time when we all ate around a table and everthing was perfect.  Huh?

Today – reality is – many folks decide marriage is not something in their “plans” or “somewhere they would see themselves in five years.” Why? Is it because love is a “second hand emotion…”a sweet old fashion notion?” Perhaps.  After all, with loveless children, addicted parents, indifferent parents, single parents, a careless society and cold, pretenious churches, maybe, just maybe love is a “sweet old fashion notion.”

So what do we do, where do we turn? To God, whose Word [The Bible] says “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 (KJV)

 Some would say what’s God got to do with it – that is” just a sweet old fashion notion.” An old fashion notion many of us have only heard of in passing.

Why isn’t it true that if there was a God, with a big G, that we wouldn’t have all the ills of society? And why would He – God with a big G, give  His ONLY son to take on the ills or sins of the world so that we could have life everlasting. Why wouldn’t He do it Himself – if love was true?

Questions; broken hearts, homeless, hungry, abused and battered people. “What’s love got to do with it?”

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God. All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life; and the life was the light of men.  He was in the world, and the world was made by him, and the world knew him not. He came unto his own, and his own received him not.  And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth. John 1:1-5; 14 (KJV)

 Love has everthing to do with it…Jesus is his name. The Son of God was God incarnate. He robed Himself in flesh, took leave of His throne in glory to identify with humankind, and be the sinless sacrifice for mankind; because He loved. He loved truly and unconditionally. He gave His life that we may have life everlasting. Moreover, that we would have life [here] and that much more abundant.

Jesus Christ is the answer to the question, What’s love got to do with it.

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